Category: Books

12 Things to Share

  - March 18, 2014 at 08:00AMCompfight 语录 图说  

12 Things to Share is  my first post in a long while, and my writing soul is not happy because I love to share, but I have been too busy working and play and planning  (so that I can travel later) to write very much. I need to re-prioritize my life again which I think happens to us all on a regular basis or it should. I am happy that I recognize that, so we will see what life unfolds.
What I have written is in notebooks and scraps of paper on planes or late at night and needs serious revision. (Yes, I need to re-think this and write more because it soothes my soul and allows my small spark of creativity to flow.)

  1. If you are packing for two trips simultaneously, make sure you put the right things in the right suitcase.

The contact cases that I have mentioned before are the most wonderful liquid traveling accessories for flying. I use the cases for liquid make up, moisturizer, retina A, toothpaste, etc… I can do the quart flying limit with a little space left over by using the hotels shampoo, conditioner and lotion.

  1. Michigan and Indiana people are very nice, kind and hospitable. (Their ancestral lines must be Southern or either our folks came from the North.)
    Great places I have eaten in these cities:

South Bend, Indiana: Rocco’s Pizza
Battle Creek, MI: Clara’s on the River, Malia’s, Addington Hills Café
St. Joseph, MI: The Boulevard Inn &Bistro

The Michigan shoreline is beautiful, and I have only seen one area. I hope to see more soon.  

  1. Ole Miss is everywhere– planes, meetings, airports!
    Tailgating family is family even though you may only spend seven Saturdays a year together. We will miss Ms. Peg’s laughter, hugs, chess squares and smiles so much this year.

    We will miss you, Ms. Peg.
    We will miss you, Ms. Peg.
  2. The history of Notre Dame is impressive, and the dome is unbelievable. Touchdown Jesus was pretty awesome also. The three Notre Dame Football players that I met were nice, polite and respectful guys.
    sun sets on a win Glenn Simmons via Compfight
  1. I am thankful for the disappointments and failures and the successes that led me to where I am today!
  1. Gigi Land is a happy land. When my grandson reaches for me or when he sees me and his eyes twinkle, it makes the heart happy. How do little ones know where “their bread is buttered”? Unconditional love is such a rare and precious thing.IMG_2899
  1. I love being the passenger on a motorcycle. I will not or should not ever be the driver, and my friends are saying, “No, you should not.”More Bikes Lester Public Library via Compfight
  1. To be physically fit, I must have a trainer/coach. I am unable to push myself beyond my comfort zone. It may go back to the eight years of basketball or track when someone told me to run this amount, and I knew I could not stop, but I need someone to tell me what I am going to do. The warm-up in Fit Camp would be my entire work out if I was in charge. I have never felt better! It makes me feel strong and confident and not just physically- it makes me feel mentally stronger.  The participants also make it great. There is no judgement, and there is no negativity: it is a positive part of everyone’s day. If one participant can do 50 burpees and I can do 15, it is ok.

Food Prep is the key as Casey our wonder woman trainer tells us!  Having almonds, beef jerky and cauliflower with me on a driving trips helps.  Convenience stores and fast food restaurants are bad places to fuel your body.IMG_2979

Stop at a grocery store and buy fruit when you are traveling. Do not forget the fork like I did one time. Watermelon is messy in the car.
Stop at a grocery store and buy fruit when you are traveling. Do not forget the fork like I did one time. Watermelon is messy in the car.
  1. Doing a good deed makes you feel good! Remember to Pay It Forward!
  1. I do not like yard work anymore and that is ok. I had rather work more and pay someone to do it. I want my flowers to look beautiful, but I do not want to pull the grass out between the flowers.
  1. House renovation project #47 was a success. It is amazing what new doors, light switches, and a new coat of paint and new cabinet doors will do for your home.I mixed three old paints and came up with the color in my living area and kitchen. It was perfect: I think it was divine intervention.IMG_2713IMG_2934IMG_2737
    The decorating is another story; I was not given that gene. It is very much like fashion to me. You were blessed with it or you were not.
    What do I keep? What do I give away? What do I buy? How do I utilize what I have?  I have been looking at the collection of “do not wants and do not know what to do with” for a month… Maybe this week.

Caution: I wanted new paint, new doors and light switches and electrical outlets then I looked at my horrible white enamel cabinets with a red thing down the front. They had to go!  There is a domino effect… I want to do this, so now I want to do this… Add money to the projected cost when you are financing a renovation, but oh, it is so worth it.

Now for #48- the big den—the football watching party room! This will be next.

  1. Read Four Friends by Robyn Carr. It sheds a new light on friendships and menopause!

Have a great week!

Happy Father’s Day to my Daddy

Dad in NOLAA father’s love is a special gift that he bestows on his children. A man who loves his children unconditionally and teaches them to love their children unconditionally gives his children the best gift that he can give to them. This gift will carry them through life with an open and loving heart. A child will be more willing to embrace the changes and challenges of life if he/she knows that his/her parents are always in his/her corner cheering for his/her to survive, thrive, and enjoy this life.  It is unfailing support that some children are given just because they were born. It reminds me of the love of God because we did absolutely nothing to deserve it.  I know that all children do not have this love, and my heart goes out to them because I do not know what I would have done without the support and love of my Daddy and yes, when I say it, I make it two syllables!

There is a reassurance and a confidence when you know that love and support is only a phone call away. When you know that your father will not judge you for whatever road you choose to take in your life, it allows you to make choices that were what you needed or wanted at the time- granted, they may not have been the best choices, but the support was still there. I am sure for my dad at times it was like watching a slow train wreck (and may still be), but he never left my side, and he listened. I am sure there were times when he put down the phone and said, “Jane, you are not going to believe this.”

His love for his grandchildren is also the same as his love for me and my sister. They know that Pops always has their back, and he will do whatever he needs to do to help them. Their love for him is so strong.Dad- Hotty

Other things I learned from my dad:

  • A good book is a treasure and should be devoured and learned from on a daily basis. Yes, Whistle and The Godfather were read by me at a young age. (You did not know I found them in the bookcase.)  We can both escape to another time and place just give us a book. Be patient because you can talk and talk or a great show my be on tv, but we do not hear you or comprehend what is being said on the tv.
  • Education is a treasure. Not all people have had the opportunity to receive an education. It is not something that should be taken for granted. You can never be too educated, wealthy or wise!
  • Seeing different places and meeting new people enriches your life and your viewpoint of the world.  New York – my first real Italian food, Miami – the guy who brought me carnations at the airport, Europe – I was a pain in the ass, but you did not leave me over there!  The Nutcracker in Atlanta on Peach Street- Daddy worked during the day, and I played in the hotel. My love of travel began, and it is stronger now than ever which reminds me, I need to buy that lottery ticket today!
  • Being willing to take a chance to make something happen takes strength and confidence, and you took a chance many years ago to better our lives. I know now how much courage that took.
  •  The love of good food, good company, the Ole Miss Rebels- Yes, we love our team, but the people you share that love with is what makes memories. I hope they win tonight!

Dad Thanksgiving

  • The cabin- Provide a place where away from home that is like a family retreat where the doors are always open and love will abound for family, friends and our adopted family members.

As I sit here writing this on this beautiful Sunday morning in a beautiful antebellum home in downtown Charleston, I can hear the church bells ringing, and I am so thankful for all of the bumps, hills, mountains that I had to climb to get here, and I am so thankful for my daddy- the strong man in my life who has always been there for me, and I know with one phone call he will provide that one way ticket home.

I love you, Daddy, and I hope you have a wonderful day, and I hope your Father’s Day present blooms beautiful red flowers for many years.

Happy Father’s Day to my Daddy

Patricia Neely-Dorsey

Magnolia flower in September 1 Piers Nye via Compfight

I have always been fascinated by the motivational forces and inspirational forces of writers. I had the privilege of chatting with a Mississippi writer who loves the South. Patricia Neely-Dorsey is a Mississippi writer who embraces her heritage and portrays in her poems the love and rich lifestyle of the South. The titles of her books are Reflections of a Mississippi Magnolia- A Life In Poems and My Magnolia Memories and Musings -In Poems. She refers to her books as “a celebration of the south and things southern”. She feel that there are so many negative connotations associated with Mississippi and the south, in general, but through her poems, she attempts to give a more positive glimpse into the southern way of life.

With the simple language and relatable themes, the poems can be read, enjoyed and understood by readers of all ages from 8 to 80. There is definitely something for everyone. I personally could relate to all of her poems being a Southern girl.  There is a memory that comes to mind as you read each poem. The news from the “Beauty Shop”, the first love portrayed so descriptively in “Tell me Again”,  the acceptance of who we are in “Loving Me”- there is something for everyone. Older Southerners will love the books because the poems bring back wonderful childhood memories of growing up in the south in a simpler time. They are reminded of a way of life that is rapidly becoming just a memory.

For the younger readers, Patricia wants to instill in the youth of our state a pride in the rich heritage of the South. She has received wonderful feedback from places as far away as Spain, France, and Germany. The “Magnolia Tree” poem seems to be a fan favorite around the globe. One gentleman from India asked for permission to translate it to post on an Indian site. A blogger from Austria also used the poem on her blog which featured photos of magnolia trees in her neighborhood in Austria. Overall, I think that the books/poems make entertaining (and educational) reading for anyone from the North, East, South or West!

The poems of her books are reflections on beautiful, happy childhood memories, growing up in Mississippi, so the title was decided because the magnolia tree is the state tree of Mississippi and the magnolia flower is the state flower. Also, Mississippi is known as the “Magnolia State”.  Women of Mississippi are also often referred to as Mississippi Magnolias. Patricia feels that she is deeply rooted and grounded in Mississippi as the strong, ancient magnolia tree. She describes herself as a beautiful Mississippi magnolia flower. The titles of both of her books incorporates the strong feelings of love for her state.

One thing that caught my eye immediately was graphic art of the magnolia on the cover of both books. They were designed by Rainey Scott, a graphic artist/designer from Vicksburg Mississippi. He worked closely with me to bring about my vision. The magnolia on the first cover is by Marty Kintrell, a photographer from Vicksburg and friend of Rainey Scott. The magnolia on Magnolia Memories is by one of my very favorite photographer friends, Bob Franks from Fulton, Mississippi.
February is the month where I buy eight birthday presents, but not Patricia. February is a special month for her because it plays a special role in the life of her “book babies”.

  • First of all, she was born in February.
  • She wrote her very first poem February 14, 2007.

“I woke up out of my sleep on Valentine’s Day 2007, with a poem swirling around in my head. I quickly got up and scribbled it down. After that the poems just started to flow and flow.”

  • Reflections of a Mississippi Magnolia was published in February 2008.
  • My Magnolia Memories and Musings was published February 2012.

When asked what her favorite poems are, she said they were all truly like her “babies”.

“I think the signature poems of my writings are “Southern Life” and “If Mississippi’s In You”. I think that they sum up the feel and theme of my all of writings. ‘Southern Man” continues to be a big reader favorite. One of my personal favorites is “Let’s “, because it kind of captures my philosophy in life of enjoying the simple things.”

She plans to publish a third book of poetry in 2015 or early 2016. It will be titled Mississippi In Me- Poems and More. This book will be the last installment of what is essentially a trilogy – Mississippi Magnolia Poems.

If you would like to purchase the books, please click on one of the links below:


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If you would like to contact, Patricia please go to these websites:

I would like to thank Patricia for sharing her love of the South and her love of poetry with all of us.

Have a great day, my friends!

Charleston: One Way

one way

I know there is a functionality purpose for one way streets, but what is it?  When I arrived in Charleston, my gps lady, whose name is Ginger, did not understand the lay out of the city.  I finally started just turning right then left until she figured out how to get me to my summer home. The people in Charleston are friendly and always available to offer directions- which works really well for me. I think that is one reason why this city is the number one vacation destination. After ten hours of driving, I was ready to be out of the car.  Upon arrival, I met my college roommates. (No, I am not starting my doctorate. They are in college.) They are four friendly girls with very different personalities and different goals.

As I started unloading the car and climbing the stairs to my second story bedroom, I realized that I might not really need nine pair of shoes and ten pair of shorts, but thanks to my unbelievable list, I arrived with almost everything I needed. I was a hot sweaty mess after unloading the car.  The temperature and humidity is comparable to the MS temp and humidity, and the air on the second floor was not working well.

The next morning, I decided that I needed a lamp because I had no light in my room, and I needed food. Where is Wal-mart? I found it using my GPS, and it was nice to walk in a Wal-mart and be anonymous. I looked like I had been run over by a truck, but nobody noticed. When you are in your hometown if you walk down the wrong aisle, you may hear that you are the topic of the conversation.
“Oh, did you see her? She looks like she feels really bad.”
“She is letting herself go.”
If this happens to you, just laugh and think about how bored they are.


After the Wal-mart excursion, I had to work for a little while then I went downtown to eat. If you ever have the opportunity to eat a Crab Cake, Fried Green Tomato, BLT- go for it!

I am learning to navigate with the help of my gps and phone apps.  My gps lady is doing a better job now. I have also downloaded a few apps on my phone to help locate coffee shops.  I do not want to miss anything that is going on in this great city.

Today it was Sullivan’s Island with a friend. It was cloudy, but it was still a very peaceful day at the beach until the rain came. Then we had a great lunch at Morgan Creek Grills at Isle of Palms Marina:  fried oysters, crab dip, and shrimp over grits.Morgan Creek Grill MOrgan Creek Grill-2

Tonight, dinner downtown. I have a guide tonight who knows the best restaurants and how to navigate the downtown area. I am excited!
An interesting website if you want to find out more about Charleston:

I read a book by Dorthea Benton Frank that was titled Sullivan’s Island. I recommend it for your summer reading list. One of my favorite quotes from her: “The most important thing I learned is that to be truly happy, you’ve got to pay attention to that stupid inner voice we all have. It knows what you need and will drive you shit crazy until you listen to it.”
― Dorothea Benton FrankIsle of Palms

Sullivan’s Island – Click here to preview book.

The one way streets are also a metaphor for our lives. There is never one way to do something or one path that will make everyone happy. We all must find our true path and be constantly searching for the path that will allow us to be authentic and enable us to search for the end of the rainbow.

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50 Shades

Shades of Grey

Why did we love the trilogy of 50 Shades of Grey?My baby girl praline3001 via Compfight

And why are these books still on my mind?

The focus for many of us was not the Dominant Submissive Lifestyle introduced to the reader. The fame and acclaim of the book could not have been achieved if that was the primary focus of the book. E L James carefully intertwined the basic fantasies/needs of most women:

  • Financial Security
  • Emotional Security
  • Wonderful sex

Financial security is one of the primary needs of a woman, and I do not mean that women want only rich men. We need to feel secure in as many aspects of our life as humanly possible. By accepting his love, most choices and decisions for Anna are his to make. Money is no longer a concern which is a major concern in most people’s lives. Do I drive to work or will someone drive me? What will I eat for breakfast? Well, whatever you tell Ms. Jones to cook is what you can have for breakfast. Security through money would allow someone to focus on sex. No grocery shopping, no car repair, no housework, no worries about paying the rent- Yes, we could focus on pleasurable activities if we were not worried about time restraints and how we were going to pay our bills this month.

Emotional security is another primary need, and the love in this book is over the top and almost suffocating, but it is constructed as to say to the reader that he means well and his controlling tendencies are frosted with good intentions. She knows that his love is deep, and that she is the only one and that he will do whatever he needs to do to keep her happy and in his arms. Who does not want that?

Sex in this book is taken to a level that many women never imagined existed.
 How many men have that sex drive? How many women can have an orgasm on command every time? (Of course, we do not have Christian Grey in the bedroom.) The reader is introduced to the BSM lifestyle, sex toys and other sexual aids that most did not know existed. I mean really, my friends, who shops at the hardware store for sexual props. While shopping at Lowe’s or Home Depot, I had never thought about what I could use in the bedroom.

I prefer this online store to the hardware store:

Adam and Eve Adult Store – Shop Erotic Adult Toys and Novelties

It will arrive in a non-marked bag so the mailman or your children do not hyperventilate, and it will not appear on your bank statement as the “sex store purchase”, so go shopping!!

When something stops working, let this company know. Excellent customer service.

While most of us are not powerful bizzillionaires, it is nice to think that one of these types would be interested in a “normal person” who only has her love to give. It deflates the theory of rich attracts rich and proves to the reader that love is more important which provides the middle class girl with hope for an Audi Submissive Special and a new wardrobe chosen by the Neiman Marcus personal shopper.

Does it provide us with a healthy dose of realism? Uh, no! Why would we read it if it did?
For mature women, it was a great read and an escape to a very sexual entertaining place. Many men hope and pray for E L James to continue her career as new things were introduced to the bedroom and the interest in sex at home spiked. How can that be a bad thing? Well, if you think every man you meet is going to be like Christian Grey, or if it makes you expect too much from your partner then it could cause a problem. One woman told me that her husband was very sad that there was not a fourth book.

For younger women, it might prove a little troubling because as we know, someone that is 50 shades must want to help themselves, and most do not have the funds for years of therapy; therefore, you might want to run home to Mother if you are introduced to the Red Room of Pain then again you might want to stay.

James carefully constructed the support system of the family and the staff, but the focus was on Christian and Anastasia. I will admit that I missed them after I finished reading the books for the fourth time.

Interesting Read: 50 Shades of Grey’ Fan Divorcing Husband After He Refuses to Re-Create Scenes From Book (Report)

For my guy blog friends: Dave Barry Learns Everything You Need to Know About Being a Husband From Reading 50 Shades of Grey

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